🌿 You Are Not Alone
Dear friend, noticing that your ego might be causing pain to others is a tender and brave moment of self-awareness. It’s not always easy to see our own shadows, especially when pride or anger clouds the heart. But this very questioning shows a beautiful openness — a willingness to grow and heal. You are not alone in this, and there is gentle light to guide you through.
🕉️ Timeless Words
अहंकारं बलं दर्पं कामं क्रोधं च संश्रिताः।
मामात्मपरदेहेषु प्रद्विषन्ति तेषु नराः।।
(भगवद्गीता 16.4)
“Those who are full of ego, strength, arrogance, lust, and anger, hate Me who dwell in the bodies of all beings.”
This verse reminds us that ego (अहंकार), when mixed with anger and pride, creates a barrier between us and others — even between us and the Divine within them. Ego-driven actions often unknowingly cause harm, because they forget the sacredness in every soul.
🪬 Guiding Lights
- Ego often speaks through anger and defensiveness; when you feel the urge to prove yourself right at all costs, pause and observe.
- True strength is gentle: humility softens the ego’s sharp edges and invites understanding.
- When your words or actions cause others to withdraw or feel small, it’s a sign your ego may be hurting.
- Jealousy and comparison feed the ego’s hunger, creating invisible wounds in relationships.
- Self-reflection and honest feedback from trusted friends are mirrors that reveal ego’s impact.
🌊 Inner Dialogues
You might be wondering, “Am I really causing harm? Or am I just protecting myself?” It’s natural to defend our sense of self, but sometimes that defense becomes a wall that pushes others away. Feeling unsure or guilty about this is a sign your heart is opening. It’s okay to feel conflicted — this is the beginning of deeper awareness.
📿 What He Would Say...
“My dear one, the ego is a restless wave on the ocean of your being. It rises and falls, but you are the vast, calm sea beneath. When you feel anger or pride swelling, remember: you are not that wave. See others not as threats or rivals, but as reflections of the same divine spirit I dwell within. Let your humility be your strength, and your love, your guide.”
🌱 A Familiar Story
Imagine a young student in a group project. When things don’t go as planned, their pride makes them snap at teammates, insisting only their way is right. The group feels hurt and distant. But when the student pauses, listens, and admits they were scared of failing, the group’s warmth returns. Ego had built a wall, but vulnerability tore it down. Like that student, your ego can be softened by honest listening and kindness.
✨ Just One Step Today
Today, try this: before speaking or reacting in a moment of tension, take three slow, deep breaths. Ask yourself quietly, “Is this coming from love or ego?” Let that pause be your gentle guide.
🧘 Pause the Scroll
- When was the last time you felt your ego hurt someone? How did that feel inside?
- What small act of humility or kindness can you offer yourself or another today to soften ego’s grip?
📢 Whisper to Share
“Ego blinds the heart; humility opens the soul’s eyes.”
🌼 Walk Forward, Lightly
Know that your journey with ego is a sacred dance — sometimes stumbling, sometimes graceful. Each moment of awareness is a step toward peace and deeper connection. You are loved beyond measure, and your heart’s gentle light can heal wounds, starting with your own. Walk softly, dear one, and trust the quiet strength within you.