🌿 Where You Are Now
Beloved soul, your heart’s yearning to love and be loved is the most natural and beautiful part of being human. It’s okay to have desires in love and friendship—they connect us, inspire us, and help us grow. Yet, sometimes these desires can feel heavy or confusing, and you might wonder if they are right or wrong. Let’s gently explore this together, with kindness and clarity.
🕉️ Timeless Words
सुखदुःखे समे कृत्वा लाभालाभौ जयाजयौ।
ततो युद्धाय युज्यस्व नैवं पापमवाप्स्यसि॥
(भगवद्गीता 2.38)
English translation:
"Treating pleasure and pain, gain and loss, victory and defeat alike, engage yourself in battle for the sake of duty. In this way, you will not incur sin."
Meaning:
Krishna teaches us to embrace the ups and downs of life—joy and sorrow, desire and disappointment—with equanimity. Desires themselves are not wrong; it’s our attachment and imbalance that can cause suffering.
🪬 Guiding Lights
- Desire is natural: Love and friendship often come with heartfelt desires, which are expressions of connection, not faults.
- Balance attachment: When desires turn into rigid expectations, they bind us and create pain.
- Practice acceptance: Loving without clinging allows relationships to breathe and grow freely.
- Self-awareness is key: Notice your desires without judgment, and understand their deeper roots.
- Love as seva (service): When love is about giving, not just receiving, desires transform into joy and freedom.
🌊 Inner Dialogues
Sometimes your mind might say, “If I desire too much, I’ll be hurt,” or “Wanting so much is selfish.” It’s okay to feel this way. Your heart is learning the delicate dance between longing and letting go. Remember, desires are not enemies—they are signals guiding you to what matters deeply. Be gentle with yourself as you navigate this.
📿 What He Would Say...
"My dear friend, the desires of the heart are like rivers flowing to the ocean. Do not dam them with fear or guilt. Let them flow freely, but do not let them flood your inner peace. Love with openness, but hold your heart lightly. In this balance, you will find the true sweetness of connection, untouched by pain."
🌱 A Familiar Story
Imagine a student who loves learning but fears failing exams. Their desire to succeed is strong, yet if they cling too tightly to the outcome, anxiety grows. When they learn to study with dedication but accept whatever comes, their love for knowledge deepens, and stress fades. Similarly, in love and friendship, desire is the spark—but letting go of tight control allows the flame to glow warmly without burning.
✨ Just One Step Today
Notice one desire you have in a relationship—observe it without trying to change it. Simply acknowledge it with kindness, as you would a dear friend’s feelings.
🧘 Pause the Scroll
- How do my desires in love and friendship serve my growth and happiness?
- Where might I be holding on too tightly, causing myself or others pain?
📢 Whisper to Share
"Love freely, desire gently—let the heart breathe without chains."
🌼 A Final Blessing
May your heart be a garden where desires bloom like fragrant flowers, nurtured by the gentle rain of acceptance. You are worthy of love, and your desires are part of your beautiful journey. Walk with courage and tenderness, knowing you are deeply supported and never alone.